The day has finally come and the love of your life asks you to marry him. Unexpectedly he gets down on one knee and pulls out that famous small box. You are filled with so many emotions and carefully open it up, look at the ring and say to yourself " I don't like it at all? This is man of your dreams but the ring isn't. What are you going to do now...thank him and say it's beautiful or tell him the truth.
This is a very tough decision to make. If the ring was passed down as a family heirloom then you should probably accept it graciously or be very tactful in your approach as it will be attacking his family. Sometimes these vintage rings are stunning and one of a kind! If the ring was a style or color that you don't like and it does not complement your hand you should you say something as you will be wearing this for the rest of your life!!
Grooms really do their best when purchasing the ring and many will take the suggestions from the salesperson. They have good intentions and you must be grateful that they did this on their own. If you really are unhappy with his choice you must be honest and tell him. Sure his feelings will be hurt but in the end he wants to make sure you have what you want. Honesty is important in a relationship so why not start now with your ring. You can simply tell him that the ring he picked out was very thoughtful and beautiful but does not suit you personally. Perhaps it's just changing the ring to gold or platinum or adding something to it. You can always take the ring back to the jeweller to see what they can do make it a bit more to your liking.
This does not happen all the time. Some brides fall in love instantly with their engagement ring. If marriage has been discussed between the two of you most likely there has been some discussions about rings. In fear of getting something you hate most brides will show their fiance pictures or drop little hints of the style and type of wedding ring they like.
Always remember your ring can be upgraded down the road in your marriage. It is very common to hear a wife say that her engagement ring was a very small diamond due to her fiance's financial situation but then 5 years later he surprised her with the same wedding ring but with a larger diamond.
When you get that ring give it a couple days before saying anything. Maybe you will grow to love it and just need a nice band to compliment it. Your engagement ring is symbol of love right?
Wedding and event planner for over 18 years of experience, sharing all my ideas and tips with brides to be.
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