Assignment 1: Although part of the thrill of the marriage proposal is surprising the one you love, as well as the suspense of waiting to hear whether you'll receive the "yes" you're hoping for in response, consider whether or not you may need to first get a better feel for whether marriage is something that you and your beloved are mutually interested in and ready for. Asking outright what the other party's thoughts are is one option, but again, it is an option that might put a damper on the surprise element you want to achieve if you're planning to pop the question especially soon. At the very least, however, before planning to propose marriage, you must seriously consider whether or not the path of your relationship together - or anything in the history of your exchanges with one another - has suggested that you both wish to spend the rest of your lives together.
Assignment 2: Go ahead and come bearing the ring - it is a vital part of what makes the moment memorable and special for a woman. Do your homework - snooping through her things is okay, just this once. Based on the usual accessorizing choices she makes, is it fair to assume she'd prefer gold, white gold, or platinum? Solitaire diamond or a three-stone ring? Round, emerald, or princess cut? Bezel, flushed, or tension settings? And remember that presentation is everything - make sure that the chosen ring is as ready for the big day as you are by having it cleaned and ready to glisten when you extend it to your bride-to-be.
Assignment 3: One tradition you don't want to forgo in making sure that everything is perfect for your marriage proposal is that of courteously and respectfully seeking her father's permission before you pop the question. Though the days of bride prices and dowries are long behind us, this demonstration of respect will mean a lot to her family and will set the tone for your relationship in the future. Be earnest about your feelings and your intentions, as the moment you receive her father's blessing is symbolic of him acknowledging that he will be entrusting her to you and deems you worthy of one of the most amazing gifts he has to offer, agreeing to officially hand her over during your wedding ceremony for you to have and to hold thenceforth.
It is important for you to take this seriously and present yourself as the man you want him to respect you as in order to grant you such a blessing and such a gift. Also be sure to do your research and be mindful of any cultural differences or expectations you may need to be aware of when it comes to your beloved's family. Etiquette can vary from culture to culture, and you'll want to do your best to fulfill any expectations her family may have of you in order to avoid any hurt feelings, disappointment, or conflict that could create glitches this early in the stages of building a life together with your bride-to-be.
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